What fundament does such an act lay for the creation of life? Lies?
You don’t really want to hear blame addressed to you during your pregnancy, even if a man later makes peace with the situation and accepts his unplanned sweetheart. But already in a mother’s womb, a baby understands everything and is very sensitive to the energy waves coming from both parents.
A child is the unity of two people, and both should take full part in its creation, aware of what they are doing. If one person doesn’t take part but only their physical material does, what kind of child will be produced?…
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Each of us feel with our sixth sense whether we were desired or not. You can close your eyes and ask yourselves. If you weren’t part of someone’s plans, you will feel the deep pain connected to this inside yourselves. It leaves a mark that affects the rest of your lives. The pain is extremely deep because it’s the very first pain of life that is experienced, but even this can be healed. These people act like children who have not received enough love and hold an overarching grudge towards everyone. They weren’t desired by their parents and feel as if the whole world doesn’t desire them either. They believe that no one will invite them into their game, and that in order to achieve something in this life they need to break through walls and locked doors.
If this is your story, then you have a lot of work to do on yourself. But start at least by accepting that since you’ve already been born, it means that the world called for you and wanted you, and that’s why you’re here. You’ve been sent down from nothing other than the sky itself and that’s why you are unique.
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A baby is not a way to keep a man by your side. There’s no need to keep anyone close to you by force. If someone wants to go, let them go. Let people be as they are.
Since when have we women started to run after anyone?
A woman’s nature is attraction. She just is and everyone comes to her…
If there’s already conflict between partners, a baby won’t resolve that. The conflict is between you two and no one else so resolve it between yourselves. Why tangle a third person into it, especially an innocent child?
If a man isn’t ready to take you as his wife i.e. not ready to take on the responsibility of marriage, can he be ready for the more serious responsibility of being a father? Do you even need such a man? Maybe there’s no point in wasting your energy on those who are not ready to be with you wholly and fully, with full responsibility, depth and totality. It’s better not to even start a relationship with men like that. Don’t get involved because we women easily get drawn into the vortex of relationships, but it’s much harder for us to get out of it.