There were lots of happy occasions in those days: sudden meetings, only free tables – with her at them, and so on. It seemed we were being pushed towards each other. Maybe, that was a higher power, taking care of us. We didn’t think about anything like that those days, of course.
Anyways, the result of that absolutely non-romantic story is over 14 years of happy married life with 5 kids.
Mutual expectations checklist
As many people, as many love stories. One person I know has wanted to get married for as long as I’ve known him. He’s 40 now. I asked him: “What kind of wife do you want?” And he shares a list of different requirements, regarding her appearance, hobbies, skills and thoughts. It might be that this actual checklist makes his view of possible partners narrower. It doesn’t let the Universe take care of him and bring a proper woman to his life.
On the other hand, there is a woman born on the same day who’s ready to do anything for him, and love him for many years! They have been friends for years, but they can’t make it from the “friend” stage to “relationship”, because he thinks that woman doesn’t fit the image he had in his mind. She doesn’t match the criteria he set up for a possible wife.
I look at that story and I think: “Thank God, I didn’t have such a closed mind when I met my future wife!” I just followed the call of my heart and the way which opened in front of me.
I’M SURE THAT BY HAVING MANY EXPECTATIONS AND REQUIREMENTS REGARDING YOUR FUTURE SPOUSE, YOU ARE MAKING THE MOST IMPORTANT MEETING OF YOUR LIFE IMPOSSIBLE.
OR AT LEAST POSTPONING IT FOR MANY YEARS.
None of us is ideal, for sure. Everybody has their personality and habits, specific features and preferences, taste and experience. But just as there is night and day, every minus has its plus to gain rebalance. That’s the way nature cares of us, by teaching us something important through our closest ones.
The main reasons why a man and a woman need a family – is unity, solidarity, and the opportunity to find and realize different features in themselves. Different people, the ones who find it difficult to be together most of the time, are attracted to each other for that reason. However, it’s only by being together that they can improve and teach each other.