3. Meaningful and not (in our opinion, this is a critically important aspect of death and dying). This is an option when a person has a premonition, is consciously preparing for death. At one of the meetings in the group, which "successfully coincided" (semantic synchrony) with Mother's Day, we worked out two of the four givens of I. Yalom's23 existence, one of which was death. The participants of the venerable age recalled how their grandparents passed away and the gap between the current attitude to dying and "that" was felt almost palpably. If "then" a person had a premonition that he would soon leave, then he lay down on the bed, gave the last orders, said the last, important words, said goodbye and left this world (and without any regrets from anyone, without fighting for life with the help of resuscitation, without "take the children away", with all understanding and respect for the moment); then "now" it is perceived as something extremely undesirable that needs to be hidden in the ground as soon as possible (like a cat who crawled under a rug and thinks that since he sees nothing, then he is not visible), and feelings and experiences remain misunderstood, unreacted (they try to comfort, not to be sad and to hear tears). Both "then" and now it is possible to observe different, diametrically opposite positions. For example, thoughtlessness ("well, it will be and it will be", "why think about the bad"), or on the contrary, like a samurai, to consider death a key moment of existence, which if you waste, then the whole life is reset, its value is leveled. Accordingly, the conditionally negative edge of the spectrum does not involve work on comprehension, it is rather an escape from the existential tasks of being and from oneself (efforts to forget). The opposite part of the spectrum requires a very significant inner work from a person, attention to himself in the noetic dimension, connection with what can be designated as the Soul. Here it is required not to run away from death and everything connected with it, but to consciously24 go to meet it – this is freedom, choice, courage, acceptance, understanding. You have drunk the cup of life, solved the tasks that it set for you, you have learned a thousand and one things; understood what needs to be understood in joy, understood what needs to be understood in sorrow, comprehended the beauty of loneliness and the beauty of meeting; necessity and non-necessity … now it remains to take the last step, it is inevitable, but everyone has freedom in what state to make it, in what depth of understanding – this is the most basic.