I can not say that this reading will be pleasant for you, like any medicine, it is not always delicious, but sometimes we need to take a cold shower to look around, look at ourselves and our thoughts. One big chapter is devotedto practical recommendations, and the next, which is called the Manifesto of Life – is all the same, but in an allegorical form and in the form of metaphors.
A time of carefree times, when we look at the world with hope, when we want to grow up faster and become an adult, sometimes it turns into an obsession.
Everyone's childhood, of course, was different: cruel, kind, hungry, boring, fun, and so on. But, having grown up, we perceive all our events in our lives from the point of view of the image that we formed in childhood. An adult is the same child, only the clothing size is different.
Of course, we change, but our perceptions of life are formed in childhood. An adult develops stereotypes that fundamentally distinguish him from a child, so maintaining a child's simplicity and even sometimes naivety will help to look at things impartially, more rationally than an adult.
Keep your child in the shower forever.
It isvery sad when a person is deprived of a childhood, it is a big trauma for the child, and in later life it is very difficult to adapt to the events that are taking place. Because, despite the fact that it is customary to say that a person is the blacksmith of his own happiness, there are events that are either difficult or simply almost impossible to influence. In such cases, it is necessary to have the plasticity of the psyche in order to survive or adapt.
Про PTSD1 we'll talk about PTSD in a separate book. I won't write it, but we'll talk. It is generally assumed that only war veterans suffer from it, which I do not agree with at all, no one agrees with this at all, it's just that these notorious adult stereotypes have worked again.
In childhood, a person receives a large number of psychological traumas, which are perceived even more strongly in a state of fragile, childish psyche. As a result of adult life, a person is formed in spite of or fearing their childhood fears and psychological traumas. It depends of course on the type of psyche, someone becomes stronger from problems, who becomes vulnerable. Everything is different, individual.