I will give an example from life. Imagine a person who is constantly anxious and worried. He tries to control everything around him, but this only increases his suffering. In Buddhist psychology we find the doctrine of impermanence (anitya). Everything in this world is constantly changing, and trying to hold on to what is unstoppable is doomed to failure and suffering. Accepting this truth, understanding that anxiety and worry are also transient, can be the first step to liberation.
Or consider the parable of the arrow. The Buddha taught that when we are struck by the arrow of suffering, we often pierce ourselves with a second arrow – the arrow of anger, resentment, self-flagellation. Buddhist psychology teaches us not to pierce this second arrow, but instead to focus on healing the wound, understanding the causes of suffering, and developing compassion for ourselves and others.
In Western psychology, we often talk about the importance of cognitive behavioral therapy in helping to change negative thoughts and behaviors. Buddhist psychology offers a similar approach, but with a deeper emphasis on mindfulness and acceptance. Instead of fighting negative thoughts, we learn to observe them without judgment, understanding that they are only temporary phenomena and not a reflection of our true selves.
As the sage Patrul Rinpoche said, "If you can't change the situation, change your attitude towards it." This statement perfectly illustrates one of the key principles of Buddhist psychology – the ability to find inner peace and balance even in the most difficult circumstances.
Buddhist psychology is not just a theory, it is a practical guide to life that can help us find inner harmony, overcome suffering, and reach our potential. It is a journey to yourself, to understanding the deep workings of your mind, and to discovering the source of true happiness that is always within us. I invite you to this fascinating journey, where ancient wisdom meets modern needs, and where everyone can find a way to a more conscious, happy and fulfilling life.
Chapter 1. Buddhist psychology (Tib. blo rigs)
Why study the mind?
Like a traveler lost in a thick forest, we often wander in the labyrinths of our own mind, not understanding its nature and power. But why should we embark on this journey within ourselves, into this mysterious world of thoughts and feelings? Imagine a wise helmsman, confidently leading a ship through turbulent waves. In the same way, our mind is the steering wheel of our life. Our every word, every action, every thought – all this is subject to his commands. Whether it is joy that illuminates our path or sadness that darkens our horizon, it is the mind that colors our experiences and determines our reaction to the world.