The psychology of a person is amazing when he does a lot of good things, tries to do the maximum that he is capable of, no one appreciates it or thinks it's normal, but the tension of nerve cells is not visible. As soon as he commits one small weakness or blunder, a huge lump of discontent falls on him, which can simply trample him.
You don't need to kill the good in a friend and trim their wings just because it's a fairly simple activity in terms of energy costs. For this reason, actions that require less effort are performed more often, even if they are negative. A person always wants to fill the void, so he tries to fill it with actions that in turn can affect the other negatively.
Breaking dishes is always easier than making it, creating it. If you want to throw out your emotions on your husband or spouse, it is better to go out into the yard and take a walk, you do not need to respond to the emotional claims of one spouse or spouse, because evil can only give rise to evil. Emotions are always bad, and the worst thing is that they can trigger a violent response in words or even physically.
We must remember that moral violence is the same as violence, and it is not necessary to use it. Words can kill, words can save. Choose the second option.
People are all different, so different that even with the maximum similarity of two twins, you will not find identical twins in character. And, growing up in the same family, eating the same mother's pies, different children from the same family come to the first grade. If, of course, metaphysically they could be connected, or rather synchronized, so that they arrived at the same time, then the differences will be enormous.
What should I do if this is the case, and what should I do to find a consensus? We need to talk, we need to communicate, because the value of a person, or rather society, and in this case of spouses is that they should complement each other, the shortcomings of one should cover the other, and vice versa. Otherwise, the competition on the topic of who will throw the slippers further often leads to negative consequences.
Different life priorities that can change a person so much that they become a different person. An idea rules the world, so an idea rules a person. If there are no common interests between husband and wife, then you need to look for them. It is generally accepted that a person is always the same as he was twenty years ago.