I will upset you, we change every minute, and more often every day we are different, and sitting on the same bench after lunch in the park, you will come up with different thoughts. And why? Because you have become different, and thoughts are just what drives you.
All the instincts to eat, drink, sleep, and make love-they come and go, although in terms of strength they predominate, because they are controlled by the ancient human brain, bypassing consciousness.
But these instincts just as easily disappear when a person reaches or receives them, and then a person begins to be guided by his inner worldview, his inner attitudes. They just define a good person and a bad one.
I do not want to be scattered in the process of reasoning about the nature of conflict among spouses, because there are different views, but I need to say very important information that the core of a person, its beginnings, they are often unchanged and can only change in stressful situations, such as war, death, illness, bankruptcy, and so on.
Therefore, when choosing a spouse, try to look deep into who they are in fact. If you choose him or her just because you feel good with him or her today, then tomorrow will be tomorrow, and new challenges can change a person beyond recognition, you have no idea.
You wonder why people become criminals if they all went to nurseries and ate the same applesauce when they were kids. In fact, all crimes are a collective product of our society. Because society has allowed it, because the criminal grows up in this society.
As one character in the movie "The Man from Boulevard des Capuchins" used to say, "Your problem is that you haven't met a good person along the way."
It is not necessary to sprinkle ashes on your head, but it is necessary to think about the fact that a loved one will do this or that, depending on what the other is doing. Every action has a consequence, and even inaction has an effect, so choose your words and actions carefully in each other's company.
If we look at different political, religious, metaphysical or some other issues, then, of course, this makes us even more different, which can lead to conflicts, and regular ones at that.
There is nothing worse than conflicts that eat away at your inner strength.