This practice not only reduces stress but also brings emotional awareness. You begin to notice what was previously hidden behind the noise of constant control: your desires, feelings, weaknesses. You stop living in the future or past and return to the present moment, where true peace is born.
When you let go of control, you don’t become weaker – you become freer. You stop being a slave to the need to control everything and discover a new way of interacting with the world: through trust, mindfulness, and inner calm. This is not a loss of strength but a new form of it that makes you stronger, more resilient, and closer to yourself.
Why the Brain "Enjoys" Submission
When you relinquish control and allow yourself to submit, your brain begins to function differently. This state, often viewed as weakness or loss of freedom, actually triggers complex neurochemical processes that bring a deep sense of calm and pleasure. Submission is not a defeat but a path to restoring inner balance, allowing the brain to reduce tension, activate areas responsible for trust and pleasure, and gain emotional clarity.
Biologically, it all starts with hormones. Oxytocin, the hormone of trust and closeness, plays a key role in this process. When you let go of control and allow someone else to take responsibility, the brain releases oxytocin, helping you feel safe. This hormone reduces the activity of the amygdala – the part of the brain that triggers anxiety responses. You no longer fear judgment or losing yourself. Instead, you feel anxiety recede, replaced by relaxation and acceptance.
This process is closely linked to dopamine – the hormone of reward. Submission is perceived by the brain as relief: you lift the burden of constant management, and the dopamine system rewards you with a sense of satisfaction. Research from the Journal of Neuroscience (2019) shows that dopamine levels increase by 20-25% when a person consciously assumes a submissive role, especially if it involves trust and mutual agreement. At the same time, cortisol levels – the stress hormone – drop by 30%, allowing the body and mind to recover.
But why does this happen? Constantly striving to keep everything under control is exhausting. The brain spends enormous energy analyzing, predicting, and dealing with uncertainties. When you release this load, the parasympathetic nervous system, responsible for relaxation and recovery, activates. You no longer expend resources fighting the world. Instead, you find a point of calm where you can simply be.