9. There is a possibility of “repayment”.
Few men are able to refuse a blowjob to a girl who really likes him. Because a good blowjob – it's beautiful! This is also the case with cunnilingus – giving a girl oral pleasure, a man subconsciously, and maybe not, expects that he will someday please in a similar way. And it is worth noting that such expectations are rarely in vain. The principle is simple and clear: good cunnilingus = good blowjob.
However, despite the fact that in most cases cunnilingus likes both sides of the process, quite often cunnies are refused, both men and women.
Why is that?
Many people feel the most real discomfort at the suggestion of cunnilingus: morally or physically, due to upbringing, religious or other views. Historically, oral sex, including cunnilingus, has been condemned by different cultures and religions. For centuries, the idea that it was unnatural and contrary to divine laws was preached. It was believed that sexual contact through the mouth was not part of the reproductive act, but an extremely perverted activity.
Why do women refuse?
Statistically, cunnilingus is refused more often by women than by men, to the complete incomprehension of those of the latter who enthusiastically accept oral caresses. Therefore, scientists conducted surveys of thousands of ladies to clarify the reasons for the disappointing results. The picture turned out to be as follows. For a holistic understanding, data from other sources is also attached here.
One of the main reasons why women refuse such oral caresses is due to their psychological attitudes and barriers that do not allow them to fully relax and trust their partner. This may be due to upbringing, religion, modesty, or other personal problems. Many women have the attitude that the genitals are something inadmissible for such close contact, such as cunnilingus, and therefore such sexual manifestations can drive her into a frank stupor. It is necessary to talk, to develop trust and a different angle of perception of such a delicate topic.
The second reason – the fear of appearing before his man in such a frank form, although the woman will willingly give you a blowjob. Here we all need to somehow convey that the labia can look different, as well as the whole body. It's just a peculiarity of human structure, that's all it is. There is no “right” and “wrong” about exactly how the genitals look (unless we're talking about a disease, of course).